Happpppy Thursday. We are officially half way through September. So crazy. This week I am talking about the most impactful, yet simplest random act of kindness I know of. That is to never ever keep a compliment in your head! This is really important to do, because just by speaking the truth of what you are thinking, you can completely make someone’s day. I have witnessed it first hand multiple times.
Let me create a little scenario here:
You’re Girl #1 and you are walking through the halls at school. Coming from the other direction is Girl #2 with such a cute outfit! You think this in your head instantly. When she is close enough, with a big smile on your face you tell her “Hey I really like your outfit! It’s so cute”. She smiles and says “Thank you!” and you two carry on your separate ways. That may have seemed so simple for you but what you didn’t know is that Girl #2 has been feeling down about herself and she doesn’t like what she sees in the mirror (We have all been there). But what you did, that little innocent compliment, was so much more. Girl #2 needed to hear that. This may not completely change the way she views herself, but how awesome to have a random person, another GIRL for the matter, compliment you.
Have you ever been Girl #1? Of course you have. We all have a little voice in our head all day that says little things. Like “Omg how many hours till I can nap”, or “Please don’t call on me, please don’t call on me” or “Wow, she is SO pretty!”. A compliment is pointless staying in your head. Period.
Have you ever been Girl #2? Feeling down about yourself? No matter what you put on that day, nothing feels good? Have you ever had someone compliment you? How did it make you feel?
I’ll bet you felt pretty warm and fuzzy on the inside.
I know because I’ve been both Girl #1 and Girl #2.
As Girl #1: Whenever I think something in my head that is nice about someone else, I always challenge myself to speak up! Because what can you lose? Nothing really. This may be a little out of your comfort zone, especially if it is someone you don’t know. But, this will not only have a positive effect on the person that you compliment, but it will make you feel good on the inside as well (Major flashback right now to the “F.R.I.E.N.D.S” episode when Joey tells Phoebe that every act of kindness is selfish somehow, if you don’t know what I am talking about, go watch every single friend’s episode RIGHT. NOW.)
As Girl #2: It’s the worst. We’ve all been there. Feeling down about ourselves, everything we put on is just bleh. We don’t like what’s in the mirror but we still have to get up, get out and get stuff done. When I am feeling this way, and someone says something nice to me, it is really a day maker.
How amazing is it that you have the power to make someone else feel happy and good about themselves? A little bit, or a lotta bit you are being kind and that is what we need more of. Especially at school! The energy can be so down in the halls and in class sometimes I swear it feels like everyone just got bad news.
Please do not keep complements in your head. Challenge yourself everyday to say something kind to at least one person.